My heart feels lighter. Sharing our story and openly talking about our children, was freeing for me. Thank you for taking time to read and reach out to me. Your love and kindness has felt like a warm hug.
This next post is going to take on a lighter note. It’s another story that many are aware of, but some are not. It has added a kink to our ability to grow our family. And I will share it now.
Have you ever watched an episode of Grey’s Anatomy and thought, can that really happen? There have been several episodes in which this thought has crossed my mind. There is, however, one episode in particular that had my friends telling others, that one is real; my friend Jenny was born with that.
One summer my mom took me to the doctor after not feeling well for a while. The doctor wrote down my symptoms, shrugged his shoulders and said, she just gets dehydrated easily – give her some Gatorade and water and she’ll be fine. So, I accepted this little fact and moved on with life. I would have spells every now and then where I was not feeling well, was slightly dehydrated for a couple of weeks and then felt fine. The summer I turned 17, I got hit with a really rough wave. I had requested my mom switch me to a new doctor. My first visit with her, she decided to check out my gall bladder.
I went in for a sonogram and laid there quietly as they looked around. I figured if something was wrong, they would say something. They told me thanks for coming in and my doctor would call me with the results. I took their silence as an affirmation that all was well and didn’t think much more about it. I drank some Gatorade and went on with my day.
A couple of days later, they called my mom back with my results. I believe their exact words were, “Don’t be alarmed, but your daughter was born without her left kidney.” Um… what? While looking around on the left side of my body to check out my gall bladder (which was perfectly fine) they were unable to locate my left kidney. They explained to her, and she later explained to me, that our bodies can live on one kidney, we just need to make sure we do things to keep my kidney healthy – like no contact sports; which for this bowling team girl was not a problem. They conducted several more tests to ensure I in fact had only one kidney and that it was functioning healthy.
I have to admit, I enjoyed sharing my anomaly with others. What did you do this summer? That’s fun. What did I do? Oh, went to my brother’s wedding… and found out I was born with one kidney. At this point, how many of you are racking your brains or googling which episode of Grey’s Anatomy dealt with someone having a renal anomaly? You won’t find one, sorry my friends, but this story continues.
About six months later, I went back to my doctor to discuss back pains I was having and other issues related to that time of the month. (Sorry, if I made you squirm a little). My doctor said she had two cousins whom were also born with only one kidney and she wanted to do additional testing. OK, sure. I was 17, I didn’t really think to ask any more questions. After several tests my mom got another phone call telling her once again not to be alarmed.
I’m still not sure on the correct form of multiple uterus’ – uteri, uterus’? I tend to go with uterus’. The medical term is Uterine Didelphys. Apparently being born with one kidney and two uterus’ is the most common abnormality among women. I did not pay much attention in anatomy, so I had to relearn what a uterus is supposed to do. At 17, I wasn’t super worried about the implications this could have on my reproductive health. All I knew, and cared to know, was that this was the cause behind my painful cycles and they were going to help solve that problem.
I honestly thought that having Uterus Didelphys would make me doubly fertile. Much like the woman on the Grey’s Anatomy episode. It wasn’t until I was older and looking forward to having a family of my own that I looked into it further. It was then I learned that there are several complications that go along with this condition. However, they vary for every woman. I had to start having babies of my own before I could figure out which complications affected me.
“For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well”Psalm 139:13-14
My body has amazed and frustrated me. I enjoy shocking people with this story and answering follow up questions (which, if you have some, feel free to write me). But, it has also complicated things. I choose to remember God’s fingertips are all over my story. I don’t doubt that He formed me this way and it plays a part in His bigger story. God is good.